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No further explanation needed. Ayear-old Cape Town-based creative type, "ar1" played the numbers game and won the love lottery. After nine months of chatting to almost people that turned into 30 dates, she finally came across a profile picture so bad that she thought the tall man behind it must have an exceptional sense of humour.
Turns out he did and two years later "ar1" and "Cape31" are engaged with a good story to tell at their high school reunion. The punch line is that they attended the same high school and music school, and he knew both her brothers yet they had never met. But speak to any online dater and they will probably tell you that there are fewer Cape31s out there than Petes.
And that's usually what people want to know about — the freaks, the weirdos and the oddballs. I have to remind myself that, to someone else's social circle, I could be Pete. I probably wear the wrong clothes, and don't say the right things. Surf-yogi could have become a catch phrase for all kinds of weird.
The actual stalkers do get filtered out, although not to the extent that they do in the US, where social security numbers and probably the National Security Agency provide greater barriers to entry than a loveLife condom. As it happens, Surfyogi's love story followed no line of scientific reasoning or online logic. She responded to one email, and in the next conversation met TeacherPlant after seven days on the site. They chatted on the site for 10 days. The conversation flowed and flowed and eventually burst its banks.
She wrote her usual stream of unconsciousness.
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He kept his mails short and succinct. She made him talk. He made her laugh. She asked whether his profile picture was taken before or after the 28 gang in Polsmoor rejected him. He apologised for misspelling "throw" as "through". That was probably the clincher. They organised a date, somewhere public with clearly defined exit points. They both secretly hoped for chemistry and feared reality. As Cupid would have it, there was no chemistry, even though they talked for hours.
They walked away with slumped shoulders, sad to have lost that special connection. They stayed in touch. He popped round for coffee the next week. With the pressure off, something shifted.
Their eyes met and they both looked away. There was chemistry, the kind that would see them through the next 10 months and counting. Surfyogi's first and only date turned out to be her last.
The game element that makes Tinder so addictive remains. But it has a few fundamental differences, mainly that once a match is made it is only the woman who can strike up the conversation. The thought behind it, says Wolfe, is simple. Having spoken to so many women who had been put off dating apps by a constant stream of creepy, uninitiated and often abusive messages from men, there seemed an obvious need for a platform that offered some level of female empowerment in the digital dating sphere.
Revealingly, Wolfe admits she has never once used Tinder. I tell her I have some less admirable male friends who swipe right on everyone, without any discretion, just to increase their matches and chances of a hook-up. But Bumble gives the man a chance to not feel like the aggressor, and gives the woman a chance to take a little more control than society says is OK and steer the conversation from the beginning.
This is all about women reclaiming that online dating space. Bumble is about establishing equality. So if we eliminate the rejection, what is there to be aggressive about?
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